Teen Abortion Issues

I found myself in an unplanned pregnancy situation three weeks before I graduated from high school. I was having sex with my boyfriend, and we weren’t using protection. I never thought I would ever get pregnant because I figured I was lucky enought to bypass it. I started feeling really different, a lot more tired then usual, I was peeing more frequently, and I always just felt really hot. I KNEW I was pregnant even before I took the pregnancy test.

When I found out I was pregnant, I wanted to keep it from my parents as long as I could because I knew when they found out they would try and convince me to get an abortion. Unfortunately, a week after I found out I was pregnant, my mom was looking through my diary and found that I was pregnant because of the recent entries. She brought it to my attention that she knew, and my parents treated me so differently.

I’m like, daddy’s little girl; and when he found out he ignored me and wouldn’t speak to me because he was so disappointed. I felt so crappy because I was the youngest sibling, and none of my older siblings even had kids yet. They all had great jobs, had gone to graduate school, and I would be so much different then them if I would’ve carried on with the pregnancy.

My family talked me into getting the abortion, and I did go through with it. It’s been a year since the abortion and there’s not a day that the baby I could’ve had doesn’t cross my mind. I thought after getting the abortion all of my bad feelings would go away and I would feel back to normal. I still haven’t, and hopefully one day I can come to peace with myself.

But, I will never forgive my parents for making me feel like the only choice I had to succeed in life was abortion. And, I will never forget the baby I selfishly aborted.

I was 17. I was so excited to be pregnant. All I had ever wanted in life was to be a mom, but when I told my boyfriend all he could do was talk about how f—– up his life was, and he wasn’t even the one carrying the child. When I told him he pressed me for an abortion. 

I gave it to him. I gave up my happiness for a boy. I gave up my baby’s life. I made the worst mistake of my life. All I remember is the pain, and now every day I cry and wish I hadn’t done it. Every day I want my baby back. I was almost 3 and a half months along. I would give anything to take it back. I hate myself for what I’ve done.

I found out Saturday, January 24, 2009, that I was pregnant. I just sat and looked at the pregnancy test and didn’t know what I was going to do. At that time I had recently had sex with my ex and another guy I was talking to, so based on how far along I thought I was I told the guy I was talking to. I was terrified to tell my mom, but a close friend of mine convinced me I had to tell her, so I told her the next day. She made an appointment for me the next day, and I was scheduled to have the abortion that Saturday (only a week after I found out). Everything was just moving so fast and I still didn’t know what to do. I knew deep down inside that I wanted to keep my baby, and I was told to make the decsion for me and no one else. When I went to the clinic that Saturday, I was too early to have the procedure done and was scheduled to come back in two weeks. I told my mom that I had finals in two weeks and wanted to wait till they were all done. I was glad I had the time to really think about what I was going to do. 

For 4 weeks I went back and forth as to what I was going to do. In the end after having a deep conversation with my mother about the situation she said to me, “If you can’t do this for you, do it for me.” I couldn’t get those words out of my head. Because of all that my mom has done for me, I ended up doing it for her.

Now that it has been almost 4 months since my abortion, I completely regret it, even though I was not sure who the father was. After finding out exactly how far along I was, I figured it was my ex’s; and I knew he would want to keep it. The other guy didn’t and told me there was no other choice. Now I have this empty feeling that will not go away. I feel like it will not go away until I have kids of my own. So my advice is ,yes, it will be hard to raise a child no matter how old you are; but make the decision for you and no one else.

Today, June 24, 2009, is exactly one year from the day I had an abortion. My day is filled with sadness, regret, and still some disbelief. I was 19 when I took a pregnancy test that turned out positive. Hoping I peed on the test wrong I took another one that came up the same. I told my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years, and the only person we told was his father. They both strongly encouraged me to have an abortion but said it was ultimately my choice. I grew up in a christian household and my mom is strongly pro-life. From the moment my boyfriend and his dad spoke the word abortion I knew it was wrong and something I never believed in. I was brought up that way, but with their encouragement and no one else to listen to I had an abortion. Yes, me!

I shouldn’t have done it. I cry all the time. I live with one big regret that will never go away, and I can’t change it. I broke up with my boyfriend because I couldn’t face him, and part of me blamed him. My parents still don’t know, and I’m not sure I can ever tell them. They are very pro-life, and I’m scared they will stop talking to me. It’s my horrible secret that itches at me all the time. I wish I could go back and change things.

I remember sitting in the Sears bathroom with my best friend hoping and praying that my pregnancy test would come out negative, and it didn’t. From that moment on in my life nothing was ever the same. After telling my parents I wasn’t ever given the choice to keep the baby. I never spoke up. I remember sitting in the clinic trying to convince myself that abortion is what I wanted, but it wasn’t. I remember being the youngest one there, feeling so scared and alone. Going in before they aborted the baby I remember lying on the table crying, and then they gave me the shot to put me to sleep, and there was nothing left I could do.

I regret not having my baby so much. I regret not speaking up to my parents. I think about my baby every day and what would have happened if I would have kept it. I don’t see right now how my life could ever go back to normal after this.

Everything happened so fast, and it wasn’t what I expected at all. I honestly never thought that this would happen to me. I wanted to take things slow in my sex life; and as soon and I came to that decision, little did I know, I was 8 weeks pregnant. I wanted more time to think about things; but the longer I waited, the bigger my baby would have gotten and I couldn’t do that. I can’t talk to my mother about my problems or anything really in my life because she’s very old fashioned and very stubborn. I knew I couldn’t tell her that I ever had sex. When I asked her if I could go on birth control about 2 months prior, she refused to talk about it and walked away. I knew that abortion was the only thing I could do so that my child and I wouldn’t have to have a horrible life. Adoption was just too hard to even think about so this was my only option.

The guy that helped me with the abortion thought it was his, but I knew it wasn’t his. It was my ex-boyfriend’s baby, but he denied me when I told him and was extremely immature about the whole situation. No one was going to help me with this, so I lied to this man so he’d help me financially. He was just as hurt as I was. It made me sad because I knew it wasn’t right, but I had to get rid of the baby.

Now that it’s gone, I feel horrible and I wish things were different and I could’ve kept my baby. I cut myself more than I did before, and I just want to stop crying and get back to how I used to be. That’s never going to happen. I used to despise children, but I guess when they say, “It’s different when it’s your own child,” they’re right, and I regret it everyday…I’m sorry my baby unknown, and I’m sorry I wasn’t a good mother to you since day one. I hope we’ll meet one day and start over

I was only 14 years old. I was five months along when I first found out that I was pregnant. The boy I got pregnant with didn’t know. My dad asked me and I denied it. When my mom saw me she told me I had to take a pregnancy test, and that’s when she found out. 

I had to make the decision if I wanted to have it, and I looked at my mom and said no. I didn’t want to make her mad, so I had an abortion, and I cry, have flashbacks and all.

When I was 16, I got raped by a guy I thought I could truly trust. My mom was okay with him, he was such a great guy. I’d known him since I was 5. When my mom told me he’d be coming to get me soon, to take me to dinner and a movie, I was kind of excited. I had a huge crush on him; so to me, it was a big deal, getting to go out with him. I never thought that day would come.

Well, that night, he took me to dinner, and was a complete gentleman. When we were on the way to see a movie, he said he needed to stop by his apartment; and he invited me in. I thought it was pretty cool, being able to go into an older guy’s apartment. I thought it was sweet, so I accepted it. All I remember after that was that he was taking my clothes off, and I know I tried to fight him off, but just couldn’t He was too strong for me to be able to do anything. The next thing I knew was that he was laying on top of me, and I couldn’t move. I passed out after that. Then we were in his car, and he was taking me home. I wasn’t sure what had happened and I was truly scared out of my mind. A few days later, I noticed that I hadn’t had my period, and I began to worry. As soon as I was sure that I wasn’t going to have my period, I decided to play it safe and took a pregnancy test. It turned out I was pregnant; and I knew I couldn’t tell my mom, because she just wouldn’t believe anything I had to say about it. I decided that I’d go ahead and get an abortion, that I just couldn’t risk anyone finding out, that I just couldn’t handle anything that came with having a baby. I wasn’t ready for that step in my life.

It’s been about 4 1/2 months since my abortion, and I truly regret having done it. I think about it everyday, and it hurts. That is a part of my life I can never take back, and if you can keep from having to do that, I suggest not to do it, because it will make you regret it for the rest of your life.

I met my boyfriend when I was 15, and 3 months after meeting him I found out I was pregnant. We took a test, and it came back positive. At first I couldn’t believe it. Then we just broke down crying. After that we got a little excited about it, whether it was a boy or a girl and what we would name it. Finding out I was pregnant brought us closer. But we still hadn’t told either of our parents and didn’t know how to.

My mom found out and made me get an abortion because she didn’t want my dad to find out. I was three months pregnant when she made me get the abortion. My boyfriend and I are still together to this day. Now I’m 17. I think I might be carrying his baby now, and there is no way I will let her make me do that again.

I still have my baby’s ultrasound picture, and every time I look at it I can’t help but cry and wonder. Don’t abort, girls. It’s a horrible thing, and it really messes you up mentally and physically.

I was pressured to have sex, and did it, and got pregnant, and I’m only 13. Well, I just turned 13!! And I got an abortion.

It was sad and very scary, and I haven’t been the same since. I hated it so damn bad.       Ya and I used to be the head cheerleader, and I loved it, but now I’m quiet, and I don’t talk very much or anything =[!!