Archive for January, 2010

Vanessa 

I am now 20 and the mother of a wonderful 2 1/2 year old baby boy named. When I was 13 I met a guy I thought was my prince charming. But man was I wrong. He became abusive. I found out I was pregnant the first time. I told my boyfriend and he was angry. He yelled at me and said the baby wasn’t his and that I must get an abortion. He was the one who set up the appointment. He took me and dropped me off and just left me alone to do it. I was so mad but I did it anyway because I thought I loved him.

It was the worst experience I have even had in my whole and I felt so alone. In the end it didn’t matter that I had had the abortion because my boyfriend broke up with me the next week anyway. Then when I was 17 I gave birth to my son. On my 18th birthday I married my current husband. Every day I think about the decision I made and wish I could take it back but I can’t. I never realized abortion was so final until afterwards.

Melanie 

I had found out I was pregnant when I was 15 years old. I knew who the dad was but I was scared to death to tell him because I knew he would be angry. In my state you had to have a parent’s consent to have an abortion, so I found a friend to drive me to the state over where I could do it without my parents knowing.

I’ve never regretted something so much in my entire life. The experience haunts me to this day. I wish I would’ve known all my options and gone to a palce that didn’t make me feel so trapped into having an abortion. If I could go back and do it all over again I know I would have made the choice to keep my baby. It’s something you will never forget or stop regretting, and worst of all it’s something you can never take back and it’s the worst burden to carry around every day.

Addison 

I had an abortion a little over a year ago, and not a day goes by that I don’t think about what I did to my baby. I got pregnant my junior year of high school by an ex-boyfriend. When I told him, he told me to get an abortion and that he couldn’t tell his parents. I felt so alone and finally decided to tell my mom. I thought she would be furious with me, but I learned that she had been in the same situation as me when she was 18 and had decided to get an abortion.

I wasn’t really given a choice about what I wanted; everyone just assumed that I wanted an abortion and I was too afraid to stand up for myself. I went to the doctor and saw my baby’s heartbeat on the monitor and started to cry. Always remember that you DO have a choice and that abortion is permanent.

Laura 

I was 17 years old, a junior in high school. I had been dating my boyfriend for two years when we found out I was pregnant. I didn’t tell anyone until I was about two months along. My boyfriend did not want me to keep the child. He had no time to be a dad, and when I told my mom about my pregnancy she threatened to send me away if I did not get an abortion.

I went to the clinic and found out that I had two heartbeats inside of me. I was pregnant with twins. I was so afraid of being sent away that I decided to go through with it, and a week later both of my babies were killed. I missed a week of school, and when I came back I couldn’t cope. I finally broke down and told my best friend, and for the first time I found true support.

I have since left my boyfriend, but I will never be able to live with the guilt of killing two precious gifts from God.

Amylee 

I’m 19 years old, a single mother to one; and my boyfriend and I decided to have unprotected sex. Come to find out after he left for the Army, I’m pregnant. When I told him he was shocked and told me he wasn’t ready to have a baby, so then I told him I couldn’t get an abortion.

We talked about everything; and with the situation that he’s in I can’t have a baby, because our life is difficult. I regret having that abortion so much that it hurts me when I look at my son, knowing he would have had a sibling.

Kristen 

In October of 2009 I had found out I was pregnant by taking four at home pregnancy tests. So I was certain that I had been pregnant for more than two weeks because I was constantly sick. Around my 7th week I had finally decided to get an abortion.

The pain from the abortion pill was excruciating. Not only did I just go through the worst pain in my life, but I had just killed living cells…living cells that were developing into a baby that I could have been holding in my arms today. It did not hit me till a few weeks later what I had done because I had thought that it was the best option for me.

But it wasn’t for the baby, and now I will never know what it would have been like to have a baby to call my own. I am pro-choice, but make a decision that you’ll think you won’t regret.

Megan 

I’m 16 years old. My whole life I was going to wait to have sex till marriage. But I fell in love, and he loves me, and I love him, and weve been together a long time. But in August of 2009 I had unprotected sex because he said he would pull out, and he did, and I thought I was fine, and it was my first time. Well, in November I found out I was pregnant. I couldn’t tell my mom. My boyfriend was excited, and his mom was too, and I knew for a fact I wasn’t getting an abortion.

Well, my daddy is a preacher, and my whole family expects so much from me. They want me to go to a good college and make something of my life. My mom told me we would have to move and everything so nobody would know and my daddy would probally make me stop seeing my boyfriend since he’s older and he would charge him.

So it came down to telling my daddy and ruining everything but having something special or getting an abortion and keeping it between just me and mom. Well, my mom took me, and let me tell you it’s the worst thing ever. I actually passed out afterwards. It was awful. Then the cramping afterwards…it was terrible. Now every day I sit and think about it. I could be becoming a mother this summer. I’m not saying I’m going to go get pregnant again. I’m a lot more careful now, but I regret it, and if I could go back I wouldn’t have gotten it done. I think that if you’re scared to tell your parents, it’ll be ok, and you should NOT get an abortion. It will change you in ways that are not GOOD.

Jade 

I am 18 years old and I had an abortion 4 days ago. Before I fell pregnant I was a happy young outgoing person. I didn’t think anything like this could happen to me…I was wrong.

Having a child didn’t seem like the end of the world when I found out I was pregnant. After taking a test I was happy, overjoyed even. I was unsure about whether I could take care of a child, but I was sure my parents would support any decision I made and my boyfriend of 2 years would be there for me.

I told my parents a week after I found out, and my boyfriend knew 2 days before them. My boyfriend soon became my ex-boyfriend, and I found out that his mother had arranged a marriage for him…his soon-to-be wife is 3 weeks pregnant.

My joy was fading fast.

My parents took the news well, which surprised me. However, they basically told me to have an abortion…their reasons: I was too young, not in a committed relationship, they couldn’t afford to help out, adoption in their eyes was not an option, and if I had the baby my father would move out.

I felt pressured into going to the abortion clinic the next week. It was no better when we got inside. It felt wrong, and every nerve in my body told me to run, but I stayed for my parents. There were 5 other women in the room with me, all for the same reason i was there…it felt too impersonal, too medical like these things happen every day. I was ashamed to be there, but having other women going through the same thing on the same day felt comforting.

I don’t remember much of what happened for the time I spent in the clinic, which I feel doesn’t help in the healing process now…it feels more like a dream that happened to someone else.  I would like to say I regret my “choice” to have an abortion, but part of me feels it was the right thing to do…the other part of me is mixed up. I wanted this child with all my heart. At the moment all I feel is pain, and I’m in a constant state of agitation. I don’t want to stop because I don’t want to think about what I did. I will now always wonder if i could have taken care of my baby, if my baby felt pain, if it knew what I did.

To all teenagers who are thinking of having an abortion…think about afterwards, think about how you will feel. Most of all don’t be pressured into making any “choice.” When I chose to have an abortion I was 9 weeks and 5 days into my pregnancy. It broke my heart, and I want my baby to know that he/she was wanted and will always be loved…

An abortion can’t be undone and should never be forgotten. I have learned a much needed lesson from this.

Jocelyn 

February 13, 2009, was the day I had an abortion. I was 16 years old. Before we went to the abortion clinic, me and my boyfriend went to a church-like clinic where they gave me a pregnacy test which came out positive. They told us all of our options, from giving my baby up for adoption, keeping him or her, or abortion. I was so sure that abortion was the solution. but now a year later I know that it was the worst thing any human being can do.

I REGRET IT SO MUCH. On February 13, 2009, I was almost 3 month pregnant; and I went to the abortion clinic where I was given almost 10 pills; and aproximatly 10 minutes later I was drowsy and sleepy. I started crying. The nurse said that if I continued crying I wasn’t going to get the procedure done. So I stopped and went in the room. All I remember now is taking my pants off and lying down on the bed. When I woke up, probably 30 minutes later, the doctors helped me get up and put my clothes back on and took me out the back door of the building where my boyfriend was waiting for me. I broke down into tears, and my boyfriend did too. We went to a hotel so I could rest since I still was drugged and couldn’t go home.

The next day I felt so relieved, like a totally new person, and thought I could continue a normal life; but I was wrong. Today I wish I could have been a stronger person. I know that keeping the baby would have been hard at the beginning, but it was going to get better later on. Me and my boyfriend are still together two years later, and we still cry about it and regret it so much. Its a pain that lives with us in our heart and mind every single day.

PLEASE IF YOU ARE ABOUT TO MAKE A CHOICE, DONT CHOOSE THE EASY WAY OUT, ABORTION. YOU WILL FEEL RELIEF FOR A SHORT TIME, BUT YOU WILL REGRET IT FOR A LIFETIME. PLEASE I BEG YOU TO READ ALL OF THESE STORIES AND TAKE THEM INTO CONSIDERATION!!!

Bethany 

When I was 16 I found out I was pregnant. The same day I found out was the same day I told my parents. They basically gave me one month to figure out what my boyfriend and I wanted to do. My boyfriend was 18 and ready to take on the responsibility of being a teen parent. My parents never cared for our relationship, so they told me to get and abortion because if I kept the baby, they would kick me out. I never wanted an abortion. They threatened me with foster care, and I was scared. My dad then told me I had no option, that I was getting an abortion whether I liked it or not, so I ended up getting my abortion on May 29, 2009.

It was the worst decision my parents ever decided for me. If I would have kept my twins I would have had them next week. It’s so sad to think about.